Writer's Block: Something like that
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Well.
If you're thinking you're gonna get some crazy story out of this one, not so.
What kind of lies are "big" ones? Like, REALLY big ones? If I said [xyz famous person] used to have dinner at my house when I was a kid, even if that's not true and it's pretty outrageous is it a "bigger" lie than something like... "I'm fine?" Or... "no, I didn't." Or, "I won't, I promise?"
Is it a bigger lie to tell your friend "no really, I'm okay" than to tell a doctor "no, it doesn't hurt, I'm fine?"
How about to read everything there is on the internet about bipolar disorder and then spout off some convoluted and completely fabricated (mostly) history to a psychiatrist so you get the drugs you want? Is that a big lie? And furthermore... if they work, is it even a BAD lie? Or... since they do work... maybe it's not even a lie???
Is "I love you" a lie? Is it ever a lie? Always a lie? Maybe only when you put the word "always" in there. "I'll always love you" is always a lie.
How about saying you're unable to do something, when the only reason you can't do it is because you don't want to? There's a pretty big difference between can't and won't, so does that count as a "big" lie?
Good ways for a compulsive liar to avoid lying are not to talk about the past - because it's so easy to revise and no one will ever know. It's hard to resist that one. And avoid talking about the future, too, because you will get caught in that one. It's one thing to say "I didn't" than to say "No I won't." Or even "yes I will." Stick to the word "maybe" and you should be okay.
For someone who gets upset when people lie to me, I certainly do a lot of it myself. I even lied to a therapist about WHY I thought I needed to be seeing a therapist.
And for that matter... in the end, who does it hurt more? The people you lie to, because you're breaking down their trust? Or you yourself, because you're breaking down your soul?
You see? When I spend too much time alone, this is where my mind goes.
And also, mildly famous people (as in, those who's names can be found in album liners) DID used to have dinner at my house when I was a kid.
Well.
If you're thinking you're gonna get some crazy story out of this one, not so.
What kind of lies are "big" ones? Like, REALLY big ones? If I said [xyz famous person] used to have dinner at my house when I was a kid, even if that's not true and it's pretty outrageous is it a "bigger" lie than something like... "I'm fine?" Or... "no, I didn't." Or, "I won't, I promise?"
Is it a bigger lie to tell your friend "no really, I'm okay" than to tell a doctor "no, it doesn't hurt, I'm fine?"
How about to read everything there is on the internet about bipolar disorder and then spout off some convoluted and completely fabricated (mostly) history to a psychiatrist so you get the drugs you want? Is that a big lie? And furthermore... if they work, is it even a BAD lie? Or... since they do work... maybe it's not even a lie???
Is "I love you" a lie? Is it ever a lie? Always a lie? Maybe only when you put the word "always" in there. "I'll always love you" is always a lie.
How about saying you're unable to do something, when the only reason you can't do it is because you don't want to? There's a pretty big difference between can't and won't, so does that count as a "big" lie?
Good ways for a compulsive liar to avoid lying are not to talk about the past - because it's so easy to revise and no one will ever know. It's hard to resist that one. And avoid talking about the future, too, because you will get caught in that one. It's one thing to say "I didn't" than to say "No I won't." Or even "yes I will." Stick to the word "maybe" and you should be okay.
For someone who gets upset when people lie to me, I certainly do a lot of it myself. I even lied to a therapist about WHY I thought I needed to be seeing a therapist.
And for that matter... in the end, who does it hurt more? The people you lie to, because you're breaking down their trust? Or you yourself, because you're breaking down your soul?
You see? When I spend too much time alone, this is where my mind goes.
And also, mildly famous people (as in, those who's names can be found in album liners) DID used to have dinner at my house when I was a kid.
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Date: 2010-08-13 01:20 am (UTC)As far as who does lying hurt more, well, I really don't like it when people lie to me, but it sure causes me ton more anguish when I lie to other people. But then again I'm probably an anomaly in my personal honesty.
Regarding lying about not being available to do something, well, it kinda depends on what it is, I mean, if it's something that is really important for the other person, I'm of the feeling that it is more of a lie than if you are just blowing someone off for lunch. I'm not sure why I feel that way, but it just is.
This I agree with. But not because it's a lie because it is guaranteed that it will be untrue at some point in the future, but rather because it makes a prediction about the future that one really isn't ever in a position to make.
Ah, yeah, and with being in a place for such a short time, it's hard to justify trying to go do something to be around people, because you know you will be leaving so soon.
RE: famous people - REALLY??? Name drop? Name drop?
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Date: 2010-08-13 02:18 am (UTC)For me, anyway, I feel like if I lie it hurts me more than it hurts whoever's on the other end. Cause they might never know. But I always know. And that might be all I'm comfortable saying about that.
And as for "lying" about the future... well, I wasn't sure saying something like that is really a lie, but then again... for someone to say they love you and then later say they don't, well... it's such a betrayal. Which feels exactly like being lied to. Throw an "always" in there? Then I guess it really is a lie.
And as for famous people... I said MILDLY famous! My mom was a professional musician and before I was born she did a lot of performing. So to have other professional musicians over was like no big deal. Maybe famous is a bit of an exaggeration, lol. But studio musicians DO make the liner notes!
I guess if you keep up with contemporary graphic art I can drop a name or two in that area :) If they have a wikipedia page does that mean they're famous?
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Date: 2010-08-13 03:04 am (UTC)And yeah, mildly famous. Would you believe me if I told you I go off-roading with at least one session musician?