Deep Thoughts - Day Twenty-Four
Aug. 17th, 2012 03:32 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
exhilaration24. Are you more social or independent? Why do you think that is?
I was a little puzzled at first to have "independent" be the opposite of "social." I think I have a pretty independent personality. I mean, I am not one of those girls who goes to the bathroom in a pack, you know, that kind of thing. I like to be left alone a lot of the time - I don't like people bothering me (or "helping" me) when I'm trying to do things like shop or run errands or ride the bus, or that kind of thing. I even got, like, the BIG headphones cause I thought that would be a clearer visual signal that I WILL NOT ENGAGE YOU. It works some of the time.
I've also got horrible social skills. I have a terrible time making friends and I've tried to sort of work on how I relate to people, but even still a lot of social situations are kind of a mystery to me. But... I think at the end of the day I AM a social person, because I WANT social contact and I ENJOY it (when it's not super awkward and unpleasant... you know, I like social contact with my FRIENDS) and ultimately, I think most things are BETTER when shared with people who are important to me, because I really enjoy having another person's perspective around on just about anything. Sometimes I get very stuck in my ways and opinions, and it's a really nice thing to see things from other people's view sometimes. So I'd say I'm more social than independent, cause it's not that I relish being alone - I just don't like to be BOTHERED, and my friends don't bother me.
I was a little puzzled at first to have "independent" be the opposite of "social." I think I have a pretty independent personality. I mean, I am not one of those girls who goes to the bathroom in a pack, you know, that kind of thing. I like to be left alone a lot of the time - I don't like people bothering me (or "helping" me) when I'm trying to do things like shop or run errands or ride the bus, or that kind of thing. I even got, like, the BIG headphones cause I thought that would be a clearer visual signal that I WILL NOT ENGAGE YOU. It works some of the time.
I've also got horrible social skills. I have a terrible time making friends and I've tried to sort of work on how I relate to people, but even still a lot of social situations are kind of a mystery to me. But... I think at the end of the day I AM a social person, because I WANT social contact and I ENJOY it (when it's not super awkward and unpleasant... you know, I like social contact with my FRIENDS) and ultimately, I think most things are BETTER when shared with people who are important to me, because I really enjoy having another person's perspective around on just about anything. Sometimes I get very stuck in my ways and opinions, and it's a really nice thing to see things from other people's view sometimes. So I'd say I'm more social than independent, cause it's not that I relish being alone - I just don't like to be BOTHERED, and my friends don't bother me.
