We Went On A Date
Apr. 13th, 2012 06:13 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
exhilarationMe and Bevan went on a date on Easter.
When we first started seeing each other we really didn't go on dates - we went to each other's houses and watched TV or movies and picked up take out and ate in the car and went to bars and had some beer and watched sports, and sometimes went to strip clubs to watch the dancers and feel naughty talking dirty to each other between tossing dollars on the stage.
After I had surgery we kind of did start going on dates, sort of. Since I wasn't going to work or school or anything, leaving the house was kind of a big deal, so we went out for coffee or to the diner or the mall or maybe the movies or a restaurant and those were like dates, even tho I felt like shit. These days we do things like meet for lunch during the school day in Philadelphia (he goes to school in Camden, but it's very easy to get back over to Philadelphia by public transportation and that does feel a little bit like a date, since we tell each other about our days and stuff and kiss and hold hands and whatever, but mostly what we usually do is set aside a block of time when we can, and maybe I will cook us something and we'll eat, and then just cuddle up on the couch together and catch up on TV shows and stuff. It's nice to just be close to each other sometimes.
On Easter tho, Bevan did not have to work because his restaurant was closed, so I figured I'd stay in my PJs and we'd get take out and lay on the couch and stuff, or maybe we'd go outside for a walk and go get some coffee or whatever, or both of those things even. Or maybe a movie. But he was kind of pesting me to actually get dressed, and when I was like, WHY, it's a holiday, we're not going anywhere, why bother, he was like, oh, well, actually, we are going somewhere, so pick out something nice to wear. And I was like... where are we going? The movies? I can wear my PJs to the theatre, no one will care. And he was like, no, not to the movies, you need to get dressed. And I was like... a fancy restaurant? On EASTER? You're nuts, it will be busy and crowded and horrible! And he was like, no, not a restaurant, but, we are getting on a train, so you have a time limit here. Pick out something to wear. And I was like... wait what? Are we going to... a show? Or a museum? Or... and he was like, none of the above, you will like it though.
So... I decided this would be a good occasion to wear my new red shoes... I went to the store looking for flower pots last week, and I did get some nice flower pots but I also managed to leave with red patent leather thong sandals with a tiny little heel. I thought my boyfriend would get a kick out of them... he sort of has a shoe thing going on. I mean, I like shoes too, but I don't get excited about them the way he does. I think they are like... in the same category as lingerie to him or something. I think it's pretty funny, but he gets very embarrassed when I tease him about it so I try not to :) Anyway, these red shoes were like seven dollars so, I HAD to get them (this is why I never have any money) and I wore them with dark jeggings and a grass-green and white polka dot cardigan over a lavender top with a red beaded double-strand necklace, and my hair right now is red too. It was cute, and he DID like my shoes.
And we went... to Longwood Gardens! We saw all the flowers... it was really pretty. It WAS crowded, because it was Easter, but they do sort of do some crowd control, like if there are too many people they start limiting how many people can come in at one time, like the special exhibits in museums do. We had a nice relaxing time just walking around and looking at everything and talking about stuff, and actually we DID eat in the restaurant there too and it was quite delicious. The restaurant was crowded too, but it was reservation-only so clearly a lot of thought went into making sure we didn't have a horrible time just due to things being busy and crowded because it was a holiday. It was nice to feel like we were on a real date, too, like a... you know, a grown up couple. Not a couple kids who like to stay home and watch TV and play video games.
There are a couple cool things about using a powerchair. One is that I can hold hands with my boyfriend and walk around a great big garden together. We've never really been able to do that before, it was a nice thing. I still, from time to time, just like to sit back and really appreciate the fact that since I am not walking, I do not need to be looking at the ground to see what's under foot so I don't FALL, and can just relax, trust that the chair can handle things, and look at all the things around me, especially in a place like that. But the holding hands thing is really cool too.
I dunno how much Bevan really liked looking at the flowers and stuff and how much he was just playing along because I was enjoying it. Now I feel like I should try to surprise HIM with something HE would really enjoy, because... I just really appreciated how much thought he put into this and how much he wanted me to have a good time, and I feel like I don't do enough for him. I mean he always says "just be you, I love having you" but I would like to actually DO something or GIVE him something or... I don't know. Maybe I can get him tickets to a baseball game, I know he would really like that, but I don't see how it can be a surprise, since I would have to make sure he's off of work and stuff.
And... I feel like we are becoming one of those super-sappy couples everyone else rolls their eyes at. I don't know. We have always been really clingy with each other - it always used to sort of make me uncomfortable how I was so so drawn to him because whenever we were with each other I would just feel... better, and it felt like... it wasn't a good idea to rely on someone else like that and I should just get used to being by myself but... it has turned out to be kind of nice.
When we first started seeing each other we really didn't go on dates - we went to each other's houses and watched TV or movies and picked up take out and ate in the car and went to bars and had some beer and watched sports, and sometimes went to strip clubs to watch the dancers and feel naughty talking dirty to each other between tossing dollars on the stage.
After I had surgery we kind of did start going on dates, sort of. Since I wasn't going to work or school or anything, leaving the house was kind of a big deal, so we went out for coffee or to the diner or the mall or maybe the movies or a restaurant and those were like dates, even tho I felt like shit. These days we do things like meet for lunch during the school day in Philadelphia (he goes to school in Camden, but it's very easy to get back over to Philadelphia by public transportation and that does feel a little bit like a date, since we tell each other about our days and stuff and kiss and hold hands and whatever, but mostly what we usually do is set aside a block of time when we can, and maybe I will cook us something and we'll eat, and then just cuddle up on the couch together and catch up on TV shows and stuff. It's nice to just be close to each other sometimes.
On Easter tho, Bevan did not have to work because his restaurant was closed, so I figured I'd stay in my PJs and we'd get take out and lay on the couch and stuff, or maybe we'd go outside for a walk and go get some coffee or whatever, or both of those things even. Or maybe a movie. But he was kind of pesting me to actually get dressed, and when I was like, WHY, it's a holiday, we're not going anywhere, why bother, he was like, oh, well, actually, we are going somewhere, so pick out something nice to wear. And I was like... where are we going? The movies? I can wear my PJs to the theatre, no one will care. And he was like, no, not to the movies, you need to get dressed. And I was like... a fancy restaurant? On EASTER? You're nuts, it will be busy and crowded and horrible! And he was like, no, not a restaurant, but, we are getting on a train, so you have a time limit here. Pick out something to wear. And I was like... wait what? Are we going to... a show? Or a museum? Or... and he was like, none of the above, you will like it though.
So... I decided this would be a good occasion to wear my new red shoes... I went to the store looking for flower pots last week, and I did get some nice flower pots but I also managed to leave with red patent leather thong sandals with a tiny little heel. I thought my boyfriend would get a kick out of them... he sort of has a shoe thing going on. I mean, I like shoes too, but I don't get excited about them the way he does. I think they are like... in the same category as lingerie to him or something. I think it's pretty funny, but he gets very embarrassed when I tease him about it so I try not to :) Anyway, these red shoes were like seven dollars so, I HAD to get them (this is why I never have any money) and I wore them with dark jeggings and a grass-green and white polka dot cardigan over a lavender top with a red beaded double-strand necklace, and my hair right now is red too. It was cute, and he DID like my shoes.
And we went... to Longwood Gardens! We saw all the flowers... it was really pretty. It WAS crowded, because it was Easter, but they do sort of do some crowd control, like if there are too many people they start limiting how many people can come in at one time, like the special exhibits in museums do. We had a nice relaxing time just walking around and looking at everything and talking about stuff, and actually we DID eat in the restaurant there too and it was quite delicious. The restaurant was crowded too, but it was reservation-only so clearly a lot of thought went into making sure we didn't have a horrible time just due to things being busy and crowded because it was a holiday. It was nice to feel like we were on a real date, too, like a... you know, a grown up couple. Not a couple kids who like to stay home and watch TV and play video games.
There are a couple cool things about using a powerchair. One is that I can hold hands with my boyfriend and walk around a great big garden together. We've never really been able to do that before, it was a nice thing. I still, from time to time, just like to sit back and really appreciate the fact that since I am not walking, I do not need to be looking at the ground to see what's under foot so I don't FALL, and can just relax, trust that the chair can handle things, and look at all the things around me, especially in a place like that. But the holding hands thing is really cool too.
I dunno how much Bevan really liked looking at the flowers and stuff and how much he was just playing along because I was enjoying it. Now I feel like I should try to surprise HIM with something HE would really enjoy, because... I just really appreciated how much thought he put into this and how much he wanted me to have a good time, and I feel like I don't do enough for him. I mean he always says "just be you, I love having you" but I would like to actually DO something or GIVE him something or... I don't know. Maybe I can get him tickets to a baseball game, I know he would really like that, but I don't see how it can be a surprise, since I would have to make sure he's off of work and stuff.
And... I feel like we are becoming one of those super-sappy couples everyone else rolls their eyes at. I don't know. We have always been really clingy with each other - it always used to sort of make me uncomfortable how I was so so drawn to him because whenever we were with each other I would just feel... better, and it felt like... it wasn't a good idea to rely on someone else like that and I should just get used to being by myself but... it has turned out to be kind of nice.
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